Stress Less: Make It Smaller. Learn A Simple Language Trick to Instantly Reduce The Intensity Of The Situation
Stress Less: Make It Smaller. How To Use LanguageTo Turn Down Stress On The Spot
I hate this project! My son is a slob! I am exhausted! This person really pissed me off! I am so overwhelmed! The weather is atrocious! My sleep is horrible! My diet is awful! If you are noticing a slight (or not so slight) tightening of your shoulders or a knot in your stomach in response to these exclamations, it is because the stress you are feeling is a real thing. In this new episode of Life Blow Up Prevention Project, learn how language can hypnotize you into feeling more stressed than it’s strictly necessary and how to use a simple linguistic trick to turn down the heat and deal with situations with a clear head and much more pizazz.
Hello and welcome back to Life Blow Up Prevention Project. Today I want to talk to you about something that I’ve been thinking about for last few days. It is a very intense period in my life. Lots is happening, there’s a lot of changes that are undergoing. I’m starting businesses, I work full time, my relationships are changing, my son moved to college, there’s a lot of stuff going on. And I noticed that often, when I talk to friends and they ask me how I’m doing I would say: I’m very tired, and I’m overwhelmed, and I’m frustrated. I noticed that, as these words escaped my mouth I feel more tired, more overwhelmed, and more frustrated.
I thought about it for a long time that language and words are hypnotic. When I say this is horrible. This is hard. It becomes horrible, it becomes hard. Because there is an associated chemistry, biochemistry that gets produced in response to that language. The reverse is also true. When I say I am happy, I had success, something good happened, I noticed that my chemistry shifts, my mood shifts. It responds to it.
Why is it that it’s so much easier to share with our family, with friends, with colleagues, all this stuff that’s wrong? So rarely will you walk, we will walk, I will walk into a meeting with friends and they all sitting around saying: How you doing?
“I am amazing, I’m great, I’m awesome!” Somehow that’s not as socially accepted as “I’m overwhelmed. I’m tired, life’s hard”.
So, my invitation for you is to begin to notice the habitual language that’s coming out of your mouth, and how it affects you on a regular basis. And perhaps redesign it. Whenever you feel frustrated, just soften it a little bit, use a different language.
Say instead of “I am livid” – “I’m a little annoyed”. Instead of: “this is hard” – “I don’t know how to do that quite yet”.
It is often that we feel these negative things, these difficult things but then we use a language that even amps it up and it’s even so much harder and so much more challenging.
So, my invitation for you is to notice your language and change it, and have people close to you keep you accountable. Tell them what you’re trying to do, pick maybe one or two or three of your go-to negative, heavy, difficult expressions that you tend to overemphasize, then decide what you’re going to say instead, and ask people around you to hold you accountable, and to help you make this shift.
And then observe what happens to your habitual emotional state when they’re different words coming out of your mouth. So I hope this is helpful, share it, subscribe and join me for the next episode of lifelong prevention project. Until next time.
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